November is a big month for our household. People who know me personally, know that the topic of foster care/adoptions isn’t ever far from the conversation. However, this month, be prepared to talk about it a lot. Real talk: kids need families. Kids need love. Kids need stability. Kids need to know they are wanted. Kids just want to know someone loves them, unconditionally. This month, I want you to think about how you can impact the life of a kid—even if it just looking at how we can be better parents to our kids.
Become a mentor? Big Brother/Big Sister? Foster a kid? Sponsor a child through a reputable organization? Tutor in an after school program? Work at a shelter? Volunteer in your community? Take a kid in your kid’s class under your wing? Do a short term mission trip? Donate books? Adopt?
I just want to start the wheels turning in your head about ways to positively impact and add to a child’s life. It isn’t always about adoption—it’s about just letting a kid know you care! Let’s strive to let kid’s know that they matter! Let’s strive to be people to empower them to dream. Let’s endeavor to be there and listen to a child. Let’s encourage them to be more that we are. Let’s work together to create a safe place for kid’s.
Not flesh of my flesh, Nor bone of my bone, But still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, You didn’t grow under my heart - but in it!
Me: Baby, do you see the smoke over there? It looks like there’s a fire in the mountains!
K: Mama, who started that fire? A villain? Maybe Joker or the Penguin did it?! You know Mama, they’re Master Criminals. That means they’re Super Villains. They are really bad guys! Like super bad guys.
So, as most of you know, homework starts in Kindergarten! Before I go any further, I would like to mention to Pre-K teachers—it would have been nice to transition them to a LITTLE bit of homework during that last year or even 6 months they were with you. If it can’t be worked in to the curriculum, parents who have kids going into Kinder, get a workbook and start doing homework now—SAVE YOURSELVES!!! No, really… incorporate it slowly over the next 6-9 months and you will save yourselves a lot of frustration, tears, screaming, whining, and strait up meltdowns!!!
So back to my experience with homework!!! It’s a NIGHTMARE!!!! Homework sucks more for the me than it does for the kid. I never thought it would be this bad—I thought, “hey, I’m an educator, I got this homework thing!” Um, NO! I am a college professor who teaches kids who already know how to read and write, I have gotta give major love to Pre-K and Kinder teachers—your job SUCKS!!! You are clearly under-appreciated because within 8 minutes of getting K settled to practice writing his first and last name, I am ready to pull my friggin’ hair out.
Can anyone relate to these scenarios?
Scenario 1: He has “traced” the number 5 about 28 times. Now the sheet asks him to write it on his own and he “can’t” do it. He just did it correctly for about 15 minutes and NOW, he can’t do it? Really, son? Really?
Scenario 2: Tracing “Q” for about half a sheet of paper. Does great—let’s me know what sound it makes. Shows me what the upper and lowercase looks like… AWESOME!!! YAY!!! Turn the page to the “identify the letters and say the sounds”… WHOOT WHOO!!! We got this, right? WRONG!!! “Baby, what letter is this?” My son, “I don’t know!” REALLY!!!! REALLY???!!!! You just wrote it like 1000 times just now.
The list of scenarios goes on and on. But if it was just these kinds of things—I could move on, but it’s also the additional sitting still and focusing. My kid has a LOT of energy. He’s spirited. He’s a firecracker. He’s bored sitting in one place. So basically, It’s my problem and it sucks. But we are pressing through and are getting into a routine. I am becoming more patient, putting myself in time out, setting a timer to let him get up, play for 10 minutes, and then get back to it, and finding out what works best for him, and for me.