Scenario: K-man was talking to Mr. JC on the phone (on speaker) and was asking him about how much he loves him. They were “arguing” about whether or not Mr. JC loves me more or K-man. After several, “no you love me more than Mama!” statements, Mr. JC finally conceded, and stated something to the effect of, “You sure are loved a lot, aren’t you?!”
JC: So Man Man, what are you gonna do with all that love?
K: Give it away!
JC: Wow! That’s right Man Man. With a lot of love, we give some away! That’s a grown up answer right there boy!!!
*It’s so true! When we get love, we give love!!! So proud of my two men!!!
Scenario: Getting out of the bath on a random Monday
K: Mama, how much do you love me?
Me: You are the most important thing in life to me.
K: So you love me more than anyone?
Me: I love lots of people so very much. But I love you so so so much and a lot more than some people! Like this much (with my arms open wide to the side, then vertically, then wrapped around myself in a big hug)!!!
K: But do you love me more than Nana?
K: More than Grandpa?
K: More than Mr. JC?
K: You know Mama, he told me that he loves me more than he loves you, so…
Me: Is that right? Well, we can ask him when he calls tonight.
K: No, just trust me. That’s what he said!
Me: Hmmmm!!! I don’t know about that!!!
K: It’s true. Seriously! Now, come here you! Gimme some sugar!!!
This weekend, James and I had a huge setback. We have been waiting on some news that basically determines our future and the verdict was like a blow to the chest—the wind was literally knocked out of us. We had waited 10 months for this information and had really thought that the timing was in our favor; we both truly didn’t have a shred of doubt that we would come out on top—life threw us a curve ball! Now, I am sure you are thinking that this is cryptic, but that’s basically because I don’t put all of my business out there, but trust me—this sucked! And it sucked big time. Tears flowed. Concerns rose up. Fears tried to creep in. It shook me to the core. It irritated me beyond belief. It scared the heck outta me.
After the tears stopped and I got outta my head with all kinds of scary and frustrating and intimidating scenarios, my type A personality kicked in, and I was able to assess the situation with a semi-clear head. Many times, a set back is just a set up for a comeback. I really had to rest on and rely in the comfort I received from friends and family. I really had to seek God and pray to get a peace about what to do next. I really have to trust James and what he has promised me. And James really has to trust me and what I have promised him. We had plans for 2014 and they didn’t include these shenanigans.
So… what if we have to wait another year to be married? No biggie! We get to spend forever together, so why not take this time to really dig into deeper issues and get to know one another better. So what if we have to wait another year live in the same area code? That’s ok. We will have the rest of our lives to live happily ever after, right?!
I can’t wait to see what this year unfolds. A no now doesn’t mean a no for forever. Get ready for the comeback—cause I can assure you, this was one hell of a set back!
Scenario: Flat ironing my hair; getting ready for work
K: Mama, why does the Headless Horseman not have a head?
Me: Well, I think he’s a ghost who was a soldier in Sleepy Hollow, which is a city, that rode a horse at night. But he’s not real.
K: If I saw him, I wouldn’t be scared because ghosts aren’t real and seriously, he’s riding a horse?
Me: Well, I’m glad that you wouldn’t be scared.
K: And if I saw him and I was Batman, I would use my Bata-rang on him because it’s electrified and it would totally knock him off his horse and stop him from scaring people!
Me: That’s good to know.
K: Yup, that’s exactly what I would do!
Scenario: At the Doctor’s office and K’s doctor is trying to make small talk.
Dr.: So, K, what is your favorite animal?
K: Well, that’s too tough to answer because I like so many animals.
Dr.: (Surprised look with a smirk) Is that right?
K: Well, uh, yeah. I like cheetahs because they are fast. Do you know that they are the fastest land animal? They also live in Africa and that’s where I’m from. But I like porcupines because they have an adaptation to defend against enemies. Their quills are sharp and they are herbivores. I like T-Rex’s because he’s the meanest dinosaur ever. They’re carnivores so that means they eat meat. They have short arms though which is funny. But I like the Harris Hawk. It’s a raptor and raptors are living dinosaurs. Yeah, I have a lot of favorite animals.
Dr.: (turning to me) Well, ok then! Guess I need to brush up on my knowledge of various animals.
*Me just smiling and shaking my head. Thinking: Yeah, lady, welcome to my life! And thanks PBS for Wild Krats!
Scenario: I’m on the treadmill in the garage. K comes out…
K: Mama, can I ask you something?
Me: Of course.
K: What does, “You can count on me” mean?
Me: It means that someone is there to help you when you need them or they are being a good friend. Or me—I will always be there to help you when you need it or any time that you ask or…
K: Or it means that they know how to count to 10 with you. Yeah, that’s prolly what it means… *walks back into the house before I can say anything else.
Me (to myself out loud): Or that my Love… or that! *smirking
I was informed today by K’s teacher that there are 99 days until he’s a first grader! GAAAHHHH!!!