He, She, They, We!

This is who my kid is (he). This is who I am (she). This is who our community is (they). We are all family (we)!

April 19, 2012 8:33 am

To Update or Not to Update—that is the question

As many of you know, Coach and I broke up.  But most of you only know this because we finally updated our Facebook status.  Ironically enough, we broke up about 2 weeks earlier but never changed our status because our break up wasn’t traumatic.  Our break up wasn’t because of a fight.  Our break up wasn’t because of infidelity.  Our break up wasn’t because of anything we did or didn’t do to one another.  Our break up was between us and only us.  The details of which I hope will stay between us and only us.

But the larger question, I guess, is—why didn’t we change our relationship status?!  We didn’t change our status because we are going to attempt to be friends.  We didn’t change our status because….well, I will say it—we didn’t want the pity party from other people.  We didn’t want to put our business in the streets, per se.  We had an adult break up!

While most people in my life genuinely care, there are a few people who don’t know anything about my inner circle and I like it that way.  I share my life with the people who are closest to me.  They know the truth about me.  They share my tears, frustrations, and joys.  They listen with a non-judgmental ear.  I am not someone who likes a bunch of people to be in my business.  So…when we talked about it, we both decided that it was better to not change our relationship status since we were still trying to figure some things out as well.

What this also brings up is the bigger question, at least for me it does.  Why, at almost 40, do I care what Facebook says or doesn’t say?  Why did it feel like another break up (to me) when we did change our relationship status?  Why does updating your Facebook status mean that it’s “really” happened?  What does it say about our culture that we ALL KNOW EVERYTHING about EVERYONE simply from their status updates, tweets, Instagram photos and relationship status updates? 

Clearly, these are purely rhetorical questions, I know the answers, for the most part.  So, for those of you who truly care—yes Coach and I broke up.  Yes, we still care about each other.  Yes, we are hoping that we can remain in each other’s lives.  And yes, I guess it is “official” because we updated our status on Facebook! 

PS—No, to all the creepers out there—I am not ready to date you now!

November 18, 2011 7:54 am

High Five for Friday—week of 11.18.11

*It is my goal that even when I kvetch, I still have an attitude of gratitude, so each Friday, I want to share at least 5 fantastical things that have happened to me!

1.  A month of seeing people really think about what they are grateful for!!!

2.  New and more opportunities!!!  If I told you everything, it might blow your mind!

3.  Coach Gray’s b-day!!!  While I try to celebrate him all the time, I get to really celebrate this guy, and I like that a lot!

4.  Spending time with Joel (AKA—It’s “Unco Joel” Mama!.

5.  People asking me if I am losing weight.  It’s a nice switch from people asking me when I am due! 

November 11, 2011 8:05 am

High Five for Friday—week of 11.11.11

*It is my goal that even when I kvetch, I still have an attitude of gratitude, so each Friday, I want to share at least 5 fantastical things that have happened to me!

1.  Veterans!  Enough said!!!

2.  New opportunities this week!!!  It’s been a whirlwind week, but pretty amazing!

3.  Meeting Coach Gray’s Malibu Sharks Girls Volleyball team and being able to support them at a game!

4.  Lunch with my friend Lugene.

5.  A full month of recognizing the things I am grateful for.  By writing them down each day, I have seen just how much amazing-ness there is in my life! 

November 9, 2011 5:05 am

Just like his friend Carlos!

November 1, 2011 5:00 am

What I’m about

I am all about being a mom
I am all about being a daughter, friend, girlfriend (someday a wife)
I am all about the worldwide orphan crisis—especially the one in this country.
I am all about getting people, worldwide, access to clean drinking water.
I am all about eradicating any form of slavery—yes people, it still exists.
I am all about being a goofball
I am all about watching reality TV while I cringe as I write that.
I am all about God and who He is and what He has done in my life
I am all about loving my neighbor—no matter what.
I am all about raising my son to know who he is—not just as a man of color, but that he has a wonderfully amazing Ethiopian heritage.
I am all about being proud of who you are
I am all about self confidence and not letting people pigeon hole you.
I am all about speaking to my son in Amharic, even if it makes some people uncomfortable.
I am all about love
I am all about giving of my time, talent and treasure to help someone.
I am all about giving back to my community because, why shouldn’t we?
I am all about feeding people who are hungry
I am all about being aware of what’s going on in other parts of the world.
I am all about travel
I am all about gratefulness

I am all about being born and raised in Southern California, but can appreciate other places too
I am all about faithfulness
I am all about freedom of speech, even if I don’t like what you have to say.  Hey, you may not like what I have to say either and that’s ok.
I am all about agreeing to disagree.
I am all about Disneyland

I am all about the Lakers
I am all about quality time
I am all about being authentic
I am all about honesty—even when it sucks

This is just the short list…for now!!!

October 7, 2011 5:06 am

High Five for Friday—week of 10.03.11

*It is my goal that even when I kvetch, I still have an attitude of gratitude, so each Friday, I want to share at least 5 fantastical things that have happened to me!

1.  The IRS still investigating me (I am being facetious).

2.  Someone buying my son 5 pairs of shoes!

3.  Rainy Days this week

4.  Figuring out what K will be for Halloween this year!!! (Not as easy as it sounds people.)

5.  Coach Gray!