November is a big month for our household. People who know me personally, know that the topic of foster care/adoptions isn’t ever far from the conversation. However, this month, be prepared to talk about it a lot. Real talk: kids need families. Kids need love. Kids need stability. Kids need to know they are wanted. Kids just want to know someone loves them, unconditionally. This month, I want you to think about how you can impact the life of a kid—even if it just looking at how we can be better parents to our kids.
Become a mentor? Big Brother/Big Sister? Foster a kid? Sponsor a child through a reputable organization? Tutor in an after school program? Work at a shelter? Volunteer in your community? Take a kid in your kid’s class under your wing? Do a short term mission trip? Donate books? Adopt?
I just want to start the wheels turning in your head about ways to positively impact and add to a child’s life. It isn’t always about adoption—it’s about just letting a kid know you care! Let’s strive to let kid’s know that they matter! Let’s strive to be people to empower them to dream. Let’s endeavor to be there and listen to a child. Let’s encourage them to be more that we are. Let’s work together to create a safe place for kid’s.
Not flesh of my flesh, Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn’t grow under my heart - but in it!
Got this message from a fellow adoptive mom who I met 3 years ago at an orphanage reunion! Blesses me to get messages like this!
You probably don’t remember me, but I met you at the Toukoul reunion in Portland in 2010 during the hair care class. I had just received our referral. Anyway… I’m watching reruns of one of my favorite shows, LA Ink, on Netflix and up walks this woman to the door. I immediately think, “That woman looks so familiar. Who is that woman? How do I know her?” Next thing I see is a beautiful picture of an adorable little Ethiopian. Ah ha! It took me 1/2 second to realize where I had seen your face. So fun!
And beautiful tattoo!!!
Have a blessed day.
K and I talk about adoption a lot. I try to bring it up often. We talk about his birth mom a lot, so it isn’t a secret about how our family became just that, a family. Clearly, I am not doing a great job at talking to him about it… UGH!!!
K: Mama, you are my favorite Mama!
Me: Thank you Baby! I am glad I am your favorite. You know why?
K: Um… no.
Me: Because when you were a baby, I got on a plane, and went over to Ethiopia to get you. I loved you so much, even before I saw you. I just knew you were going to be my favorite son!!!
K: Mama, is Africa a store where you can buy things? Where you got me?
Me: No Love. What I meant was…
K: So you didn’t get me?
Me: Well yes, I did, but…
K: So is Africa like Target? Where we get things?
Me: Sweetie, you aren’t a thing…and…
K: (cutting me off)… So did you come to Ethiopia to get me?
Me: I… Yes…Of course I did… (stumbling over my words… at a loss for what to say next).
K: Mama, can we read a book?
Me: Of course!!!
*Ready to cry!