Before we went to school/work, we danced our booties off to:
Katrine and the Waves
*Sometimes SHUFFLE really rocks me (and K)!!!
What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious, happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently and that is why, I have put together a list of things that HAPPY people do differently than UNHAPPY people.
1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, FEAR less and LOVE a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.
2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE. Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse, but rather, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? and they go from there, focusing on the positive rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full no matter what happens to them.
3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to FORGIVE and FORGET, understanding that FORGIVENESS is a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”Buddha
4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O. of a multi billion company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them.
They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” Mark Twain
5. MEANING vs. AMBITION. They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” like Wayne Dyer puts it, and they care more about living a life full of meaning rather than, what in our modern society we would call, living a successful life.
The irony here is that most of the time they get both, success and meaning, just because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world.
6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Happy people would probably agree with Carl’s Jung theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size”. They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior.
When a parent wants to make sure that his 7 years old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child won’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end geting the wanted results.
7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lies many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.
8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS.They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.
”Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.”Buddha
9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.
10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.
“Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.” Goethe
11. KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self love, self forgiveness and self acceptance.
12. GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No no matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, they have this capacity of seeing beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for them all.
13. PRESENCE/ ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future.
“When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek your self in it and mistake it for who you are.” Eckhart Tolle
14. POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens to them, they always seem to keep a positive perspectiveon everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.
15. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMING. They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away, and they choose to keep the power for themselves and taking responsibility for everything that happens to them.
Octopus Pasta—small/skinny pasta
Old Cars—Cars the Movie 1
New Cars—Cars the Movie 2
Shrek with the baby—Shrek Ever After
Shrek and the Dragon—Shrek 1
Woody and Buzz—Toy Story 1
Zurg—Toy Story 2
Woody and Buzz with the Bear—Toy Story 3
Life Saver—Light Saber
Con-fuk-shun worker—Construction workers
“I certainly know something terrifical when I see it!”
I was watching a movie the other day and heard this quote. I feel in love with it right away. It seemed to speak to me on so many different levels of my life right now. When thinking about things that are terrifical in my life, the list is long. Like I have said before, I want to be someone who lives in an attitude of gratitude. I am not always successful—are any of us? But I strive for it.
Just as a reminder to myself—here are the things that I think are terrifical in my life right now:
My core group of friends who get me and “it”
My job and working with a creative team
Living life to the fullest
Being someone who is a sower (not of just money, but so much more)
Living in Southern Cali with the weather being amazing
There is so much more in my life that is amazing, but the list could go on forever. Just trust me when I say, I know something terrifical when I see it!!!
*It is my goal that even when I kvetch, I still have an attitude of gratitude, so each Friday, I want to share at least 5 fantastical things that have happened to me!
PS—these aren’t in any particular order!
1. My Dad!
2. My classes are a go!!! After a month long hiatus, I am back to teaching!
3. Walking this week with Suzanne. Even with the short work week, we have made time for our 2 mile walks!
4. Carlos—still very grateful for this amazing man.
5. Finishing applications for 2 new teaching gigs!
I have to give a disclaimer that really, Cooper Jack hasn’t done ANYTHING, but he has become K’s home/car/Nana and Grandpa’s house scapegoat. Maybe I should back up and give the foundation to this!
K goes to school full time. He is friends with a boy who happens to be named Cooper Jack. In normal 3 year old rough housing/playing way, I “think” that Cooper Jack may have hit K like one time during a space/laser/monster/car crash scenario, and now—he is K’s scapegoat!
I noticed a pattern at home when K would break something or drop something. His immediate response was “Cooper Jack did it!” Ironically enough, I would have to remind him that Cooper Jack doesn’t live in our house and hasn’t even ever been here, so how could Cooper Jack have done it? I would get the “I don’t know look” and consequences/punishment would ensue!
Oh, but it gets better. Sadly, it’s so funny when K tries to blame him that others have joined the “Cooper Jack did it” movement. Now I blame Cooper Jack for things. My dad blames Cooper Jack for things. Poor kid! He is getting blamed for things all over this town! In all honesty, I have met him like seven times and is a sweet kid who is a normal, active 3 year old boy. He and K are friends. They play together and get along as well as any 3 year olds can. So I know it isn’t fair to blame him, so for that I apologize. Yet, even with the apology, I know you want to know what Cooper Jack has “done” according to K (this is the short list), right?
Broken the screen door (both upstairs and down)
Flushed the toilet more than once
Dropped his cup full of juice
Broke his adjustable waistband on his new shorts
Broke and entire box of brand new crayons in half
Ate my dinner while I was on the phone with his doctor
Threw a ball in the house that knocked something over
Said “potty talk” (as if I didn’t just hear him say the words)
Left his clothes out (one of his chores is to pick up his own clothes)
Dropped his plate of pizza on the floor and just left it there
Took our Easter card that we were supposed to give to Nana and Grandpa and hid it in his tent (I found it on Mother’s Day and gave it to them)
Spilled water on his shirt because he refused to use two hands
Moved the chlorine dispenser for our Jacuzzi and I couldn’t find it
Unscrewed the handles on the kitchen drawers
Poured water on the floor from the bathtub
So… as you can see, my son thinks that he is getting away with some things. Oh, K, I so know your tricks! Been there! Tried that! Go sit in the time out chair son!!! Cooper Jack doesn’t live here!!!