I am not your typical 40something Mama. People who know me, know this to be true. While I pride myself on striving to be a pretty good Mama, I know I’m not perfect and don’t look at other Mom’s in comparison! We are all just trying to do the best we can with what we’ve got. However, some of the “seasoned” (AKA, more-than-one-kid) Mama’s at K’s school have opinions/comments/thoughts about my parenting techniques and me. And, for those of you who have a drop off routine, you know that you see the same group of families around the same time every day. Our life is no different.
Here are a few examples:
Some of the rules at K’s school are just strait “stupid”, in my opinion. I get it—some of them are about safety. I completely understand! Still doesn’t make me think they are any less stupid! When he gets in trouble for breaking them, I want to laugh out loud and stare at them like, “Really?!” My poker face isn’t very good when it comes to things like this. While I make him obey them, in my head, I am thinking, “When he can understand this better, I will explain to him that he can’t do it at school, but at home—go for it homie!” A few Moms’, in particular, have seen my facial expressions and have commented to me that I need to just embrace the rules. I smile and keep walking but in my head, the thoughts are basically, “Um… no thanks lady. That’s not how I get down, but thanks for your opinion!”
I wear heels ALL the time. Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall—this Mama is in heels. I like them, I feel good in them and they make me feel fabulous! I feel elongated and slimmer (even when I’m really not). I feel tall and pretty! Also, I pay a lot of money to keep my toes nice-looking, so I like to show them. I like to see them. Hell, there were a lot of years that I was so fat that I couldn’t even see my feet, so now that I can, I’m just happy to see them! Some of the Mom’s have something to say about this. EVERY! DANG! DAY!
My hair and makeup, even when I’m sick, is on point. Some days I don’t have eye shadow on, but I ALWAYS have mascara and even just some lip-gloss! A few of the morning mom’s have commented something to the effect of, “WOW, you always get done up!” I just smile and say thank you, but you know I’m thinking, “Uh, aren’t we on our way to work? Aren’t we about to start our day? Your boss/co-workers/husband/significant other may thank you if you used a comb!”
Music. Music seems to be the one that gets a lot of these Mamas in a huff. K and I have a routine on the way to school (all ¼ of a mile that it is!). We listen to music LOUD. It gets us pumped up! We sing along loudly. We like it! It starts our day out on a high note. My kid loves music and so do I! This morning, one of the regulars (who always has something to say about my clothes, shoes, makeup and music choice) said this morning, “I heard the song you were listening to this morning! I’m surprised you let him listen to that kind of music!” I wasn’t gonna say anything, but it was her tone that got me. “What kind of music?” “Well, it sounds like you let him listen to rap and stuff! I mean, does it have cuss words in it?” “I actually don’t let him listen to rap, we listen to hip hop and yes, I do let him listen to that. I try to eliminate cuss words, but I’m not always successful. Just like I’m sure most parents aren’t totally successful in NEVER using potty talk around their kids!” Her response was something to the effect of, “Oh. WOW. Well, I guess you guys like stuff like that!”
Oh, sweet, conservative, younger than me mom. Thank you for the compliment! Yes, we do like our music loud. Yes we do listen to hip-hop. Yes, we do sing along. And yes, we will continue to be fabulous! It’s all good!